Is Your Parental Defensive Armor a Problem? (Part 1 of 3)

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September 5, 2013 by updatedhomemaker

This tought occurred to me today after seeing a blog post and the reaction to it.  Mrs. Hall at posted FYI (if you’re a teenage girl)  Mrs. Hall posted about eliminating social media “friends” within her family with people who post what she deems inappropriate.  The inappropriate behavior was focused on teenage girls.  What I saw in response was parents (possibly of teenage girls?) reacting negatively to it.

I do have a daughter, but she isn’t a teen nor is she in social media – yet.  My armor didn’t go up.  My take away was 1. Be careful what you post.  2. Once it is out there, there is no control over the reaction to it.  Unfortunately, the message was framed in the context of teen girls. Therefore, some parents (of teen girls?) had their defensive armor up with reactions of “how dare you judge her!” or “doesn’t any girl deserve a second or more chances!” or “look at your blog with your half-clothed pictures of your boys in their swimsuits! – hypocrite!”  In fact, in reaction, Mrs. Hall now has some different photos on a second posting of the same text that illustrate her point better.

My question is:  do you disagree with the two points?

1. Be careful what you post.

2. Once it is out there, there is no control over the reaction to it.

Were you unable to see these two points BECAUSE your parental defensive armor was up?

I’m not saying that you don’t have the right to disagree with what Mrs. Hall deems appropriate (or inappropriate).  I’m not saying that you don’t have the right to disagree with her reaction to it.  I am saying that you cannot control it.

My Message: When a criticism of a group in which someone you love belongs is voiced, can you recognize when your armor is up, but still hear the message and decide if it has merit?

In terms of social media, you can see my thoughts from a parent point of view here in My Personal Social Media Manifesto

Two more parts coming the next two days…regarding my personal experience with parental armor.

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