July 16, 2013 by updatedhomemaker
Let’s give them all some respect!
It can be a purely valid career choice that can fit into a family dynamic and budget.
Another Psychology Today article by Emily Matchar.
Mostly, I realize that the author is one that could not have ever walked in a Homemaker’s shoes. Her tone is one that belittles what he does each day and judges how it could possibly take so much time to do housework, stating “I’d probably be bored out of my skull in about 3.7 hours.”
She goes on to say “must have a waaaaaay bigger house than I do. Between my husband and I, a pretty thorough weekly cleaning takes about 2 hours every Sunday, and laundry and cooking take another 2 hours a day max”. Thus adding to the “what in the world do you do ALL day?!” attitude.
She states that her “interest and engagement in things outside the home and our family unit are part of the reason” her husband likes her. This assumes that a homemaker would suddenly have to give up their interests and doing things outside the home. I absolutely disagree with that statement. Homemakers must branch out of their home. We are all social creatures to some degree. This just feeds into the stereotype of a homemaker being a “kept” person.
While I don’t enjoy her tone, I do have to agree with some points that she makes. I plan to post further on these points.
– he left behind a career where his skills are now at a standstill and will be left undeveloped or out of date
– the spouse is “solely responsible for financial security”, which is an added pressure
– he is leaving himself financially vulnerable in the case of divorce because there are no kids.